If you happened to read my post about becoming who you want to be, you'd know that right now I'm focusing on growing into the woman and wife and friend, etc. that I believe I'm called to be.
The process started with a conversation with a friend and a realization that it's not as natural to grow if you're not thinking about the areas you want to grow in. So we started thinking about them! Fancy that.
One area we wanted to focus on was being the kind of wives to our husbands we want to be. I can be all kinds of wife to my husband, but there is a specific wife I want to be. And I'm sure we've all realized by now that just because we want to be a certain way does not make us become that way... Although that would be awesome.
So to take a step forward, I wrote down some of those qualities and characteristics I wanted to see myself grow into. One of the less natural ones for me is making the things that my husband enjoys into the things that I enjoy as well. Allow me to elaborate....
Movies. I'm not a movie gal. I'm just not. I probably will really only like a movie if it makes me laugh super hard without being too vulgar. Thus, the movie I enjoy watching the most is She's the Man with Amanda Bynes (it's a really great piece of cinema). In fact, I quoted it in my last post.
The OTHER thing that I also don't enjoy is the movie theatre. They're cold and uncomfortable and cost too much money, so if it's my choice I like the couch and a blanket and cup of coffee.
You can probably see where this is going.
Ben LOVES movies and loves the experience of the movie theatre including and especially the overly buttered and salted $6 popcorn. I think he's cute with it :) but I'm rarely ever on board with including a movie out with our date. Until this weekend!
Because I had been thinking about ways that I can bless Ben as his wife, I offered for us to go see a movie. I even looked up movie times and chose a theatre I knew he'd been wanting to try! And I think I surprised him .
It's not like me to do something like suggest what Ben loves, because I'm more often thinking about myself than not. But that's not the wife I want to be!
It was so sweet to see the surprise in his face when I suggested a movie and the excitement he had when salting his popcorn. It was totally worth it. And ya know, I don't think I would have loved him in that way if I hadn't spent time thinking over what it looks like to be a wife that loves my husband well.
This applies to so much more than being a wife... friend, mother, neighbor, etc are all included! Sometimes we just need a reminder to take a step back, look at where we are, then consider where it is we want to be and what we can do to get there.
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