It's been a busy week for Ben and I. As a nanny, there are days when I get some extra hours in... parents want date nights every once in awhile and stuff. Anyway, this week there were A LOT of those extra days/nights. I think I worked a total of about 50 hours, which is a lot more than my normal 25-30! It was super good for finances, but not so super for me and Ben.
I have this thing about the response "SO busy" to the question, "How are you?". Yuck. To me, you're basically saying, "I have no time for you."
And mayybe sometimes that's true, but I think really that's mostly never true. You have time for who/what you make time for, right?
For us this week, that "so busy" turned in to: disconnect in our relationship, laziness in free time (because I "deserved it"), grumpiness and selfishness. When I say us I really mean me, I'm describing how I've felt at points this week- I claim all these, and I'm not proud of it!
Guys, it's really hard to have a lot going on and still maintain good relationships and a good attitude. But I look back on this week and I'm bummed cause it could have been a lot fuller and more peaceful and more fun if I would have had an attitude more like "yes, things are busy but of course I still want to love you well, Ben my husband."
That's what this is really about- loving people well. The vibe that says "I have no time for you" is just not a good way to love people the way that I want to be known for loving people. Let's be better about this. Let's make a point to love consistently even when life asks us to babysit during date night.
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